Married Men and Women :: Community and Resources

We support the Church's doctrine that "marriage between a man and a woman is ordained of God and that the family is central to the Creator's plan for the eternal destiny of His children." Unfortunately, some circumstances make family life particularly challenging. Among them is the scenario where one or both partners in the marriage experience same-gender attraction. Whether and how to begin or continue such a marriage is profoundly important, but there are answers for each person that can come from our Father in Heaven. However, generalizations and pat answers are seldom helpful.

In order to understand how best to approach these relevant issues within a marriage (or consider them before starting one), we suggest carefully studying out all the available information on the topic and then prayerfully supplicating the Lord for guidance and understanding. Avoid blame and regrets as you determine how to best love your spouse and face the very real conditions of your lives. Remember the importance of honesty and striving to be one.

You will find advice from those of varied dispositions on this topic. As you seek additional helpful information and resources, be careful to choose those you can trust, since different sources may disagree on crucial points that could influence the entire course of your life, your spouse's life, and your children.

As individuals who believe in and are trying to live according to the principles and standards of the Church, we've tried to assemble a variety of resources that will help you to move forward in the gospel in a way that will be spiritually, emotionally, and socially enriching. Since you're here, we assume you are trying to live the gospel too, and we're glad. Welcome!

Resources on this page are organized as follows:

North Star Resources

Upcoming Events

Church Resources

Other Resources

North Star Resources

These are discussion groups, articles, and personal essays created by North Star or published on the North Star website. If you'd like to share some of your feelings, experiences, or you're your testimony in a personal essay, please contact us.

North Star's online discussion groups are formed based on level of interest and are subject to change as interest, need, and activity levels evolve. North Star Married Men was formed as a result of a sufficient level of expressed interest. A group for married women will also be formed as sufficient interest is expressed.

Community Voices

Live the Questions
By Phillip Brown

"It Is Not Good That the Man Should Be Alone": The Virtues of Community and Friendship
By Ty Mansfield

"That Ye Love One Another"
By Samantha Stevens

Questions and Answers

Check back for articles here!

Northern Lights Blog Discussions

Dating and Marrying, part 1
Ardent Mormon - June 12, 2007

Dating and Marrying, part 2
Borealis - June 17, 2007

Dating and Marrying, part 3
Jason Lockhart - June 25, 2007

Dating and Marrying, part 4
Drex - July 19, 2007

More Dating and Marrying Advice
Borealis - July 23, 2007

Interviews with 3 bloggers, each married 25 years, part 1
SG - May 21, 2007

Interviews with 3 bloggers, each married 25 years, part 2
Abelard Enigma - May 24, 2007

Interviews with 3 bloggers, each married 25 years, part 3
Beck - May 27, 2007

Upcoming Events

North Star does not currently sponsor any specific activities or events. We do, however, provide a calendar of events sponsored by other individuals or groups which we have reason to believe are in general harmony with the mission of North Star and the values and standards of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. The following events cater to, or are welcoming of, married men and women:

Please see North Star's main calendar for a list of events.

Church Resources

God Loveth His Children | PDF
Newly released booklet (July 20, 2007) providing counsel specific to Latter-day Saints who experience same-gender attraction

LDS.org Email Subscriptions: Family Gems

LDS.org Articles

Let us know of articles by Church leaders or in Church publications that have been helpful to you either in marriage or in preparing for marriage, by emailing us.

LDS.org Gospel Library Selected Topics

Chastity | Communication | Divorce | Forgiveness | Grace | Marriage | Repentance

LDS.org Provident Living articles

Communication | Divorce | Family | Fatherhood | Marriage

Other Resources

These are online discussion forums, informational websites, weekend seminars and retreats, or articles and addresses sponsored by other individuals, groups, or organizations. North Star provides the following information only as reference and the approach of particular resources may or may not fully reflect the opinions or approach of individual North Star contributors.

Weekend Seminars and Retreats

Love, Sex, and Intimacy
Sponsored by the International Healing Foundation
For youth, men, women, spouses, parents, family

Heirs Together marriage retreat
Sponsored by Barry and Rhonda Moses

Website Resources

Marriage Preparation and Evaluation

PREPARE/ENRICH relationship inventories
by Life Innovations, Inc.

READY, RELATE, and RELATE-Remarriage relationship inventories
by The Relate Institute